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What to do if your partner is avoiding you

Don't you hate it when your boyfriend ignores you or doesn't answer your calls or texts? I have that kind of boyfriend and I hate it when he does that. I get hyper and flip out. I hate it, but I learned a way to get him to stop.If you are sure that your partner is avoiding and ignoring you, you need to make a move. Do not overreact, do not be overanxious, the problem with your relationship might be trivial. Once you have identified the problem, it is time to bring it to the notice of your partner. Hard as it may seem and be difficult to do but it can save you many ugly moments.

Communicate

Communication, commitment, trust and love are the characteristics of a successful relationship. If your relationship is missing even one of these qualities, it may tumble. Love is like a delicate thread and open communication is the best way to keep the bond strong. If you are feeing that your partner is falling out of love, go and talk to him. Ask him why he is ignoring you. He may keep his cell phone switched off just to avoid you. Meet him in person. Avoid discussing things over the phone, through text messages, via e-mails or through chats. Do it face to face.

Seek explanation

Tell him that you have noticed that he is avoiding you and you need an explanation. Tell him that you would not go without getting proper answers to your doubts. Do not say something that will hurt your partner's feelings. You are still together. Your partner may be going through a bad phase. He may be depressed as he got rejected in the job interview or he is hesitating to tell you something. Find out the root cause of his behavior. Life will surely get on track once again. However remember you do not have to be forceful and keep calling every minute, demanding an explanation.

Give some space

Sometimes emotions are hard to understand. Give your partner some space. Leave him alone for a few days. When he will be okay, he will get back to you. Meanwhile spend time alone. Let your partner spend time alone so he will get time to know the situation in better ways. Do not argueor blame your partner. Do not say things like, ‘you have changed' or ‘you are not the one with whom I fell in love at first sight.'It is said, that time heals. Be patient and see whether things improve.

Think again

If you have discussed the reason for his disinterest in you, if you have given him enough time, if you have waited enough to improve the situation and nothing is coming out of it, then it is better you move on. Let go. If the person is the one for you, he will come back. Otherwise that person is just not meant for you. If it is clear that your relationship is going nowhere and is on verge of break-up, do not cling to it.

Believe in yourself and have patience. Avoid explaining to your partner how nice it would be to be together. Stay calm come what may, you will be glad you did. Trust yourself and go on with life. It is not worth a person who does not need or deserve you

WHAT MEN WANTS FROM A GIRL :)

Stop right there and read this article! It may save your relationship. Probably not, but at least it will make you smile, and perhaps get to know men a little better.

10. TALKING IS SACRED

One of the biggest complaints that women have against men is that they don't listen. Not true! We listen, that's how we ended up dating you.

The secret of this is to get your man's attention when you talk to him. Here's a tip for this: nudge him on the arm, or speak closely to his ear.

9. DON'T ASK ABOUT PREVIOUS GIRLFRIENDS

This will just lead down a road to calamity. We've all had bad relationships in the past. Laying them out on the table for examination is a recipe for...well, you might get jealous.

8. DON'T TALK TOO MUCH ABOUT PREVIOUS BOYFRIENDS

I don't mind hearing about other men a LITTLE BIT. It makes me think that I am with a healthy, open-minded, socially-adept female. TIP: Don't call them by name. Refer to them as "that one guy". If a girl talks about her old boyfriends too much, I may get the idea that she's comparing them to me. That's a no-no.

7. MEN NEED A CHALLENGE

Sometimes, we menfolk need a challenge to feel like we're able to overcome and succeed. It may be a sign of insecurity, but it's nice to feel a sense of validation. TIP: Ask for something that would be difficult to obtain; for instance, ask your man to pick-up pizza in the middle of a rain-storm. We like to feel heroic.

6. MEN HAVE A HARD TIME EXPRESSING EMOTION

Seriously. The only times I get to cry are at football games, and action-movies, and this is usually only permitted at football games. This may be a social-construct, but it plays an important role in mens' lives. We are expected to be the protector, the hunter, and the warrior; this extends deeply within our personalities. TIP: Watch a manly-movie with your guy. I suggest Rudy, Hoosiers, or Fight Club.

5. MEN WANT CONFIDENT WOMEN

A must have. If someday my girlfriend and I have children, I do not want a girl who will flake out on our babies. I want a tough and smart girl, who knows what she is doing.

4. MEN WANT INDEPENDENCE

I've heard of couples who stay together at all times. That isn't for me. In order to be in a long-term relationship, I need a girl who can let me be me. Likewise, I will treat her with as much respect as I can, if reciprocated.

3. MEN LIKE TO FEEL SMART

This plays into our egos. We like to feel like the dominant, assertive male. Although, nobody likes being patronized. For men with ego issues, this may be particularly painful.

2. MEN ARE TURNED ON BY DIFFERENT THINGS

You've probably heard is a million times, men are visual, women are emotional. Shapes turn us on. Smells. It's true. But, there's always an underlying aspect to it. TIP: Ask ten men which actress they think is the hottest: Christina Ricci or Scarlet Johannsen. The statistics should be overwhelmingly divided. Some guys will like Scarlet, some guys will like Christina.

MEN ARE UNIQUE

We are different people, and not every man has the same feelings about these issues. The most important thing to know is: LEARN HOW WE FEEL. We're not cavement, after all.

HOW TO BE HAPPY IN LIFE TIPS :)

Happiness is ephemeral, subject to the vagaries of everything from the weather to the size of your bank account.

We’re not suggesting that you can reach a permanent state called “happiness” and remain there. But there are many ways to swerve off the path of anxiety, anger, frustration, and sadness into a state of happiness once or even several times throughout the day. Here are 20 ideas to get you started. Choose the ones that work for you. If tuning out the news or making lists will serve only to stress you further, try another approach.

1. Practice mindfulness. Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about your checkup tomorrow while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now — the food, the company, the conversation.

2. Laugh out loud. Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Researchers at the University of California, Irvine, tested 16 men who all agreed they thought a certain videotape was funny. Half were told three days in advance they would watch it. They started experiencing biological changes right away. When they actually watched the video, their levels of stress hormones dropped significantly, while their endorphin levels rose 27 percent and their growth hormone levels (indicating benefit to the immune system) rose 87 percent.

3. Go to sleep. We have become a nation of sleep-deprived citizens. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book — and turning the light out an hour later — can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.

4. Hum along. Music soothes more than the savage beast. Studies find music activates parts of the brain that produce happiness — the same parts activated by food or sex. It’s also relaxing. In one study older adults who listened to their choice of music during outpatient eye surgery had significantly lower heart rates, blood pressure, and cardiac workload (that is, their heart didn’t have to work as hard) as those who had silent surgery.

5. Declutter. It’s nearly impossible to meditate, breathe deeply, or simply relax when every surface is covered with papers and bills and magazines, your cabinets bulge, and you haven’t balanced your checkbook in six months. Plus, the repetitive nature of certain cleaning tasks — such as sweeping, wiping, and scrubbing — can be meditative in and of itself if you focus on what you’re doing.

6. Just say no. Eliminate activities that aren’t necessary and that you don’t enjoy. If there are enough people already to handle the church bazaar and you’re feeling stressed by the thought of running the committee for yet another year, step down and let someone else handle things.

7. Make a list. There’s nothing like writing down your tasks to help you organize your thoughts and calm your anxiety. Checking off each item provides a great sense of fulfillment.

8. Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you’re writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.

9. Garden. Not only will the fresh air and exercise provide their own stress reduction and feeling of well-being, but the sense of accomplishment that comes from clearing a weedy patch, watching seeds turn into flowers, or pruning out dead wood will last for hours, if not days.

10. Tune out the news. For one week go without reading the newspaper, watching the news, or scanning the headlines online. Instead, take a vacation from the misery we’re exposed to every day via the media and use that time for a walk, a meditation session, or to write in your journal.